
More Things Seem to Qualify
Somewhere along the way, the things that bring me joy began to change. These days, a few hummingbirds fighting over the backyard feeders qualify as a pretty good way to spend some time.

Somewhere along the way, the things that bring me joy began to change. These days, a few hummingbirds fighting over the backyard feeders qualify as a pretty good way to spend some time.

We often think we know what an experience is supposed to be about. But sometimes the main attraction becomes little more than the backdrop for the moments we’ll actually remember.

We rarely know what happens after our lives intersect with someone else’s. A smile, a kind word, or a simple moment of patience may mean far more than we ever realize. This week’s reflection explores the unseen ways our ordinary lives continue touching others long after the moment has passed.

Before posting about two meaningful milestones, I found myself asking a simple question I never would have asked years ago: Why do I want to share this? That question led me to think less about social media and more about the intentions behind what we share with others.

During a weekend of unexpected conversations, I realized that while our stories may look very different, the questions beneath them are often the same. This reflection explores identity, connection, and the quiet reminder that we’re never as alone as we imagine.

A conversation with a man in treatment challenged the way I think about identity. We all carry labels, but they don’t have to define who we are. This reflection invites us to ask a simple question: Who are you today?

Even after years of recovery and public speaking, the voice of self-doubt still visits me. I’ve learned that growth isn’t about making that voice disappear. It’s about learning that I don’t have to believe everything it says. Fear may still come along for the ride, but it doesn’t have to drive.

Earlier today, I caught myself mentally rehearsing a conversation that might happen later in a recovery meeting. The interaction itself had not happened. There was a decent chance it would not happen at all. But that didn’t stop my mind from building the whole thing anyway.

One of the lessons recovery has taught me is that support and understanding are not always the same thing. The people who love us most may not fully understand our experience, while those who understand it may not be part of our everyday lives. Both matter. Both have value.

A few days ago, I received some difficult news. What stayed with me wasn’t just the news itself, but the reminder that we can see progress on the outside without knowing what is happening on the inside. This reflection explores compassion, hidden struggles, and the limits of what we can truly know about another person’s experience.